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February 2010

Fashion and the Cause: SVL Goes Red for Heart Health Awareness Month

Model, Adriana Dress, $340

Model, Adriana Dress, $340

On February 5th, people of all over the country, regardless of color or background, wear red to represent heart disease awareness. At Su Voz Latina, we are showing our support through the eyes of fashion. Story continues…


The Secrets to a Fruitful Marriage

When a man and a woman marry each other, they become one flesh. The joining of two individuals can be a beautiful thing if the marriage is built on a strong foundation. We hope that as you apply this to your life, your marriage will be richly blessed!
It is important to start off by discussing the marital roles. Many of us have been tainted by society’s views on what our roles as men and women should be. Just because something has been pounded into you, doesn’t mean its right.
Creation
When God created both Adam and Eve, He also created and established roles for both men and women to follow. Because God is the same today, tomorrow and forever, these roles still apply today. And, if these roles are carefully followed into your marriage, you will not only be a blessing, but be blessed as well.
Genesis 2:18 tells us after God created Adam, He felt something was missing and He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Looking at this one scripture, we must recognize one important factor: God created Eve for Adam. Eve was the helper suitable for him.
This scripture shows us that all women were created to be suitable helpers. To better understand our role as helper, let us delve further into its meaning. A helper is someone who aids, or assists; a supporter, backer, or ally. Thus, in essence, wives are the backbone to their husbands in that they should encourage and support all decisions made by their husbands. In the Bible, the book of Ephesians (5:24) further explains a husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. Just as the church submits to Christ, wives should also submit to their husbands in everything.
Our society tends to make us feel weak or inferior if we submit to our husbands because the word submission is often grossly misunderstood. Submitting to your husband does not bind you in servitude. It doesn’t suggest you can’t think for yourself, or allow your spouse to take advantage of you. God is pure-hearted and everything He tells us is pure and good. Just as He calls us to submit to our husbands, He also has given a distinct role for men to follow.
Just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, husbands are called to love their wives in the same way (Eph. 5:25.) Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself (Eph. 5:28.) 1 Corinthians 13:4 teaches us that love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. When a husband acts in love, it’s not difficult, but instead a pleasure for his wife to submit and follow him.
Both roles are equal and no sex is higher than the other. But, God did create men to lead the marriage. However, men cannot lead properly if their wife’s interest is not at heart. When a man truly loves his wife, he will make decisions based on that love, with the benefits of the home in mind. It’s easy for a wife to follow her husband when she feels and knows she is loved. It’s equally easy for a husband to lead if he knows his wife is behind him.
5 tips for a fruitful marriage:
1. Be patient. It is easy to get angry at your spouse when they say something that upsets you. It is very difficult, and it takes someone who is very wise, to stay calm and remain patient. A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel (Proverbs 15:18).
2. Be kind to one another. Kindness is simple way of showing our affection for our spouses. 1 John 3:18 instructs us to not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. “Love” is not only saying “I love you.” It’s living it and showing it. Let your actions speak for you.
3. Be quick to think, slow to speak and slow to get angry (James 1:19). In the heat of the moment we can sometimes say things we later regret. Before hurting your spouse with what you say, think twice before you speak once.
4. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry (Ephesians 4:26). Be completely humble and gentle, bearing with one another in love. Even if you feel as though you’ve done nothing wrong, attempt to solve the problem before the night is over.
5. Encourage each other daily. Hebrews 3:13 tells us to encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
These are very wise words. Just as harmful words destroy and harden hearts, comforting words build up and bring relief. By building someone up you also nourish the soul and motivate them to persevere under distressing situations.

Groom kissing hand of smiling bride.When a man and a woman marry each other, they become one flesh. The joining of two individuals can be a beautiful thing if the marriage is built on a strong foundation. We hope that as you apply this to your life, your marriage will be richly blessed! Story continues…


Spring to Mexico

If you’re tired of heavy knits and gloomy skies, we’ve got great news! Spring time is just around the corner (which means warmer weather and time for a well-deserved vacation). To help you get started on your planning, here’s a list of breathtaking spas and hotels across Mexico for your next getaway. Story continues…


A Colorful Labor of Love

Have you ever wondered how blind people dream? Well two women did and their curiosity led to the inception of “Do You Dream in Color?” a documentary film about visually impaired children’s waking dreams.
The project was started by USC graduates, Abigail Fuller and Sarah Ivey Dickerson about two and a half years ago. When El Paso native Norma Saldivar moved to California, Fuller and Dickerson invited her to join them on this life-changing labor of love.
At the age of four, Norma Saldivar asked her parents if they could all move to California; they didn’t budge. At the age of eleven, she’d walk around imagining scenes out of a movie on every street corner, her sisters called her weird. Norma light-heartedly defended her oddities by saying, “my weirdness will get me somewhere.” By 18 she was already on her way.
Norma studied film at the University of Texas at Austin, where two of her short films were accepted at South by Southwest, a widely recognized music, film, and interactive conference and festival. Soon after, Norma moved to California (with only 15 dollars) where she worked as a production assistant on ABC’s hit show “Brothers and Sisters.” For many, things don’t always fall into place so perfectly, but for Norma her life flourished when she became involved as the Line Producer for “Do You Dream in Color?” “I have experienced a few things but I’ve learned from them. Nothing’s perfect or easy. Having a good attitude is so important. You have no idea how much that’s helped me.  Everyone has to find their own passion, their own drive,”
stated Norma.
The intention of “Do You Dream in Color?” is to bridge the gap between the blind and sighted worlds by animating the dreams of blind kids. “We are animating dreams of visually-impaired children to interpret how they see the world. We’re intertwining that with their waking dreams over the course of a high school year,” explained Saldivar. The film crew met over 300 children and personally interacted with each and every one of them. They narrowed it down to seven visually-impaired children who showed extraordinary ambition, but most importantly, didn’t see their blindness as a disability. “These kids were very ambitious,” stated Norma, “some even more ambitious than sighted people.”
“Do You Dream in Color?” starts off at Camp Bloomfield, a camp for blind teenagers based in Malibu. Over the course of the year, the film crew will follow each teen in their respective city, as they overcome adversities, struggles but most importantly, live their lives. Working with blind children has opened Norma’s eyes–an impact she hopes the film will have on the rest of the world. “These kids don’t let anything stop them. It’s nice to see that inspiration considering they’re visually impaired. At first I would get sad, because I felt bad. But the more I hung out with them, the more exciting it was. They’re not dwelling; it’s not a disability, it’s an ability. It has opened my eyes to the whole world and not automatically assuming   that because someone’s blind, they’re sad,” stated Saldivar.
The film crew will follow the seven children until June of 2010. Viewers will experience fun and touching stories from one student named Hannah, who was born in China and adopted at age twelve by American parents. Hannah’s purpose throughout the film is getting reacquainted with her past. Another student named Carina is a second generation Mexican-American and the first in her family to graduate from high school and attend college. “Do You Dream in Color?” is set to release in January of 2011 and the crew remains hopeful on premiering the documentary at the Sundance Film Festival.
If you would like to make a donation or get involved in the “Do You Dream in Color?” project you may
e-mail Norma Saldivar at DoYouDreamInColorDoc
@gmail.com.

Dream2Have you ever wondered how blind people dream? Well two women did and their curiosity led to the inception of “Do You Dream in Color?” a documentary film about visually impaired children’s waking dreams. Story continues…


Healthy Heart Happy You

While we may not be able to beat faulty genetics, there are still plenty of things we can do to prevent disease and maintain a healthy heart. By staying active, cutting back on bad habits, and eating foods high in fiber, Omega-3 fatty acids and vitamins, you can play your part in living a happier, heart-healthy life.  Here are some heart-healthy choices to start adding to your diet. Story continues…


Latinas in Action

sylvia_chrisSylvia Martinez, Administrator, Altomar Home Healthcare

When it was unpopular for women to achieve academic greatness and lead career-oriented lives, Sylvia Martinez did it. Without much support from her family, Sylvia earned a Bachelor of Science at UTEP and worked as a nurse in the newborn and pediatric intensive care units at Providence Memorial Hospital. Story continues…


The Two Faces of the Job Market

Getting the Right Job and Keeping It;
Hiring the Right People and Keeping Them

2facesGetting the Right Job and Keeping It; Hiring the Right People and Keeping Them

So you made yourself a promise that this year you would step out of the boat and make a career change.  The word on the job market, though, has not been too terribly encouraging and with headlines on job markets using verbs such as tough, tight, low and loss–instead of stepping out of the boat, making a move now conjures up feelings of walking the plank. Story continues…


I Need You to Need Me: Overcoming Attachment Issues

Q:  I grew up with a mother that struggled with deep emotional insecurities and attachment issues.  I consider myself a very different woman, but find myself exhibiting similar “neediness” when I’m in relationships.  How can I improve myself and avoid bringing those issues into my home?
A:  It sounds as though your mother exhibited some features of a personality disorder.  People who struggle with these symptoms really are seeking reassurance that they are worthy of love, attention and devotion.  Probably during her early childhood, she felt that her family didn’t provide her with enough “I love you/ value you” messages.
Unfortunately for you, she wasn’t successful at recognizing her neediness and how it drove people away from her.  You, however, have a tremendous advantage in that you recognize how her behaviors and insecurities diminished her life and relationships.  You have the ability to not repeat those self-sabotaging behaviors.
The first issue which I feel you must address and work to counter is recognizing that you are not the cause of her inability to attach and show love.  Your mother parented you the way she was probably parented.  Her inability to connect and nurture you was a result of her intense fear that if she loved you, you would discover her failings, “un-lovability” and eventually, you would leave her.  Her inability to attach with you has nothing to do with your worthiness and lovability. You must get it out of your head that you aren’t lovable.
It would be beneficial for you to make a list of what makes you unique and loveable.  You should start every day by reminding yourself of these positive qualities.  We call these exercises self talk.  If your mother isn’t able to nurture you, you must nurture yourself.  Treat yourself how you wish your mother had been able to show her love to you.  In addition to this positive self talk, you also need to talk yourself through your behaviors that others identify as needy. Remind yourself of how you react to your mother’s neediness.
When you experience your moments of neediness, talk with your significant other and or a close friend about these feelings and insecurities.  Be honest about your fears/ anxieties.  Talk yourself out of testing people’s love and devotion to you. Making people walk the trial by fire will only exhaust people and result in them leaving you. No one person will ever be able to meet all of your needs or to completely fulfill you. By the same token, you are not able to meet all of the needs of anyone else.  No one person will ever be able to give you constant attention/ devotion.  Some of your needs need to be met by you.
The most beneficial thing you can do to not allow those destructive behaviors from entering your home is to be aware of your behaviors that result in making people feel overwhelmed by your insecurities and need for constant attention.

qna-issuesQ:  I grew up with a mother that struggled with deep emotional insecurities and attachment issues.  I consider myself a very different woman, but find myself exhibiting similar “neediness” when I’m in relationships.  How can I improve myself and avoid bringing those issues into my home? Story continues…


Black Pepper-Crusted Tuna with Corn and Black Bean Salsa

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This recipe is chock-full of super healthy ingredients. The tuna has heart-healthy, omega-3 fatty acids and the salsa is loaded with tasty veggies and beans that create scrumptious flavors. This recipe is a perfect example of eating heart-healthy while still enjoying amazing food. Black beans are rich in fiber and corn is a great source of folic acid (studies have Story continues…


Workout of the Month: Kettle Bell Swing, Twisting Lunge and Push up

EFS Trainer Kim Brutzman designed this multi-functional Triplet (a three-part workout) that targets both upper and lower body. Before beginning the workout, it is necessary to perform a thorough warm up to engage all joints. Perform three repetitions of the featured workouts as follows: 30 KB Swings, 20 Twisting Lunges and 10 Push ups. Workout demonstrated by Laura Molina. Story continues…


Q & A: Women’s Health

Question and AnswerQ: Although my husband and I are very career-oriented and always very busy, we’d like to start planning for a baby soon. Certain times of the year are busier than others so we want to plan carefully. How do you recommend we go about planning our first baby? Story continues…